Preventing suicide with talk?

I am sure everyone has known someone that has been down or clinically depressed in their lifetime. 

Many times you may suggest that person "talk to someone" or get those emotions out. 

But what about those that are suffering from thoughts of suicide or those who have actually tried to die by suicide?

A Danish study that followed participants for 20 years found that "those who received therapy were 27 percent less likely to attempt suicide again" after their first attempt. 

This is very good news because though many of us know that talking about what is troubling us 

can help, this is the first study of its kind to really look into how talk therapy (counseling) really

impacts the rate of further suicide attempts. 

If you know someone who is suicidal please don't just suggest that they go talk to someone. 

Offer yourself and offer this number 1-800-273-8255 or website for further help. 

I personally have known someone that attempted suicide, and have had someone close to me

die by suicide. 

Knowing now there is proof that therapy reduces the likelihood of another attempt makes me feel

much better about my chosen career and being able to help others, not just clients with this in the 

future. 

Tell me have you been impacted by depression or suicide?

Edited March 25, 2022, to correct outdated language in regard to suicide. 

What to do about stress

Stress is a normal part of life that we all expereince. 

Many studies and literature I have read tell us that stress is what makes use get up and get to work and do other things we MUST do. At times though this stress can be overwhelming leading to poor judgment and distress. There are many things that we can do to manage stress (exercise, freeze and not doing anything, overeat, sleep, talk to a friend or therapist). Today I want to introduce a healthy option you may not have tried. Deep breathing.

Yes I know you are breathing as we speak, but when we don't feel our best we are likely not breathing our best either. Read here for more tips and watch here for a 13 minute class that will lead you through it. 

Please let me know how this works for you and share what is stressing you out at the moment.  

Proof that words can hurt

 As a former CPS worker it was often difficult when there was a case of emotional abuse to show the harm it had caused. Physical abuse has physical proof but words also hurt, though psychological abuse is not just using mean words. It can be demeaning, making someone feel less than and so many other things. Neglect is also a powerful factor in issues developing in children. Whether it is intentional or based on a lack of resources the child could be affected.



This article is a call to action for preventative services for children that suffer emotional abuse and neglect. Please take the time to read it. 

Source

Childhood psychological abuse as harmful as sexual or physical abuse

Do you believe you can reach your goals?

One of the first steps to achieving goals.....after making goals that is....is to believe that you can actually reach those goals.

Do you believe that you can do this?
Use the form below to see where you are in believing in your ability to reach goals.

If you are not there yet, don't worry. It is not beyond your reach.

Diet time!

 

Happy Thursday Everyone!

 

There are times when we stand in our own way to achieving happiness. Below are a few things that I think we can all give up that will make happiness a better possibility. I know that I am at times guilty of many of these things.

 

 

Do you ever feel selfish when you think of taking care of yourself? Well I am here to tell you that you should not. If you don't take care of you, you will be unable to work effectively, love effectively, or play effectively. So lets all try a new "diet". This will be a challenge but let's agree to give it a try. NO people pleasing, NO self doubt, NO negative thinking, NO fearing failure, no self criticizing, no more saying "yes" when you mean "no", and finally NO more procrastination.

I have learned that with diets it is better to focus on what you can have: self compassion, self empathy, understanding of self, and as I have learned in my Daring Way group treating yourself as you would a loved one (you love yourself don't you?) {If not it is time to}.

Try this for 7 days and tell me how it works for you.

I am willing to bet that you will experience more happiness by the end of this diet.

Struggle is a part of change

 

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Sometimes we seek a quick fix: That instant diet that results in 20lb weight loss, that job application that results in an instant offer for a job, that dating site profile that results in a marriage proposal, that child discipline tip that fixes all behavior problems.

The only problem is that is not how we get to progress.

To progress we must endure pain, we must fall, we must struggle to stay on the right path

Imagine that you want to train for a marathon... you don't just go running once and become ready to beat those in the race with you the next day.

• you get shin splints
• you need new shoes because you have ruined the last pair you owned
• your legs and abs ache
• you don't want to get up for that next run
• you find excuses not to train today, but you will tomorrow

All of this is a part of the process...BUT if you stick it out you can complete your training program and participate in your first marathon, maybe not at the speed you wanted but it is the journey not the destination really.

Don't be discouraged, it is all a part of meeting that goal.

Why roses aren't so great

 

I am sure you have heard the famous saying "Stop and smell the roses." This is a reminder to take time to appreciate the positives in life and not let the hard things get us down.

But what if there are no roses around? Do you just wait until you find some?

I would challenge you to stop and smell wild flowers and what ever is growing right where you are.

 

 

It can be such a challenge to find the positives in every day, let alone every moment. I have made plans to take time each day to find 1 positive. Days like yesterday in my life would make it seem that this is not possible each day. That is a normal reaction to stress, but if you really can't find one thing a day to be glad about or grateful for I would challenge you to MAKE A CHANGE!

 

 

 

 

Enjoy your weekend... and tell me what was great about today?